Welcome

Why “the-ponder.com”?

It was an idea about three years ago which then became a reality. The inspiration was patient’s positive response to good talking, good listening, and good explanation. Patients need more input from their doctors in connection with their illnesses and they need to be seen and treated as human beings but not just illnesses. Patients expect doctors to see their illnesses as a small part of them and treat it as such. A doctor who treats a disease in my view is seeing life through a binoculus magnifier.Yes, that doctor could probably see a lot of the disease itself but wont see the patient, and that can be a barrier towards success in the medical profession.

Aims
During my work with patients with different neurological disorders (especially those with no identified cause like migraine, chronic fatigue syndrome, and fibromyalgia) I have discovered many things; most of which have a lot to do with “understanding”.
Understanding on the doctor’s side, and understanding on the patient’s side. I can also add another dimension to these: doctor-patient relationship.
 I do strongly believe in the fact that the main purpose of any doctor in the hospital is to help patients. Everything else that doctor likes to do (research, teaching, administration, etc) should be secondary to the prime duty of looking after his or her patients.If we (doctors) all agree that our main job is to look after our patients, then we should agree as well on doing this job perfectly well up to the best of our ability. 
Communications
Obviously I don’t mean here mobile phones, or television, or internet. I mean personal communications….. I mean the art of listening, the art of understanding, the art of explaining, and the art of delivering.
We need (doctors) to be aware at all time that, our patients are “ill” , and that is the only reason why anyone of them leaves his/her work to come to the hospital, or surgery. There are queues on the roads, queues to get to the hospital, queues to register in, and queues to wait for each ones turn to see a doctor.
This means that everyone comes to the hospital to see a doctor has enough reason to do that, and that reason is so significant to the patient. We need to be considerate, sympathetic, and kind enough to make our patients relaxed, comfortable, and feel that the doctor is there to help them. Patients may feel frustrated, anxious, and irritable because of their health concerns. They may get agitated very easily, and they may shout at us for simple reasons…. it is us (doctors) who must compromise, and control our tempers. We are here (at work) to help, support, comfort, and be nice to our patients. We can only do that a smile and professionalism.Doctors know very well that, not every illness is organic in nature, and not every illness can be picked up (confirmed) by investigations. Hence, it does not cost money to smile, and it does not cost money to explain to our patients about their illnesses even if they are judged by us as not organic (functional) in nature. Doctors need to treat their patients as human beings, and try never to see them as “diseases”!.The main purpose of this website is to try and reduce the gap of understanding between doctors and their patients, for better understanding, and better professional relationship.The best way to achieve that is for every one of us (doctors and patients) to engage in cool exchange of thoughts and ideas, and to engage in the process of give and take. I am aiming in this website to give a chance for everyone to be able to take (advises, ideas, opinions), and to give (feedback, and contribution) for a better tomorrow to all of us.  
M Belhag, Editor in chief.

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  1. These comments came from Dawn Twilights (not her real name !) on 8 May 2016:

    Hi Mohamed,
    Thank you for writing that editorial. I really enjoyed reading it. I have never really looked at the world from that perspective before and it has brought up lots of interesting questions in my mind. One of them being ‘what should our response be to suffering?’

    Like you say, life for any one of us is full of struggles battles, difficulties and illnesses. There is not one individual that I know who does not have their own story of pain, struggle, heartache or disappointments.

    If we look back at our own journey we can probably see how such experiences have shaped and moulded our character and changed the direction of our lives, hopefully for the better in the end. That is if we can accept that life is a journey of hills and valleys, and that not one of us is immune to pain and suffering.

    The question for some is ‘where is God in those painful moments?’. In our darkest moments in life we can feel like heaven is silent…. but it is in those moments that God is walking beside us, in the tears, the questions, the frustrations. We can look back on our lives and it can seem like such a mess …..but if we look closely enough we can always find God in the smaller details of the experience.

    It reminds me of a song written by a beautiful singer called Laura story.. Called blessings. She wrote this at a time in her life when her husband had just been diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumour and was searching for the same answer.

    https://youtu.be/0xRNrnh__SE

    So I have an illness ……. No one has a cure… No one knows why it happens…and I can live my life with fears, worries, if, buts and maybes… But no one knows what my journey is going to be, except God. So I have a choice to make … It can make me a bitter or better person!

    I feel blessed that It hasn’t affected me too badly but the diagnosis has been a journey of significant loss in many ways.
    Would my journey in life have been different if I hadn’t been diagnosed? ‘Yes….but I wouldn’t be where I am today and I would never exchange that.

    I can wrestle with the what if’s and but’s of those losses but I have to ask do I want those experiences to make me bitter or a better person?. We all have regrets in this life but we have to learn to forgive ourselves and move on.

    But how do we help those that can’t see through the despair, can’t see the amazing opportunities and life that they still have before them in those moments of greatest disappointment and sorrow. Even if the time we have left is short and one of pain we still have a choice… We can still,in those moments, be the best person we can be.

    Dawn

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